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Total Leadership with Stewart Friedman
“I never have enough time for my friends, family or myself. All I do is work, work, work.” Does this sound familiar to you? We all know that taking a break from work and spending time with our loved ones and our selves is crucial to preventing burn out, frustration and stress. But why is it that we never make time for those things?
It’s definitely something I have been grappling with in my own life, as I significantly expand my coaching business and start new ventures (like this Telesummit). It’s also an issue that many of my clients have as well.
Reading Total Leadership: Be a Better Leader, Have a Richer Life by Stewart Friedman was like a breath of fresh air for me. As I began to learn and implement his system, the various parts of my life no longer felt like they competed against one another. And now - my family, my business and my personal life feel a lot more integrated. And it just feels so much better to be inside my own life, living it fully and from a place of personal power.
As you can tell I am really excited to share Stewart’s wisdom with you. He has made a tremendous difference in my life and I am sure, you will learn a great deal on the call.
Stewart Friedman is the founder of Total Leadership. He is an innovator in both the leadership development and work-life fields. His most recent book Total Leadership provides groundbreaking insights into the theory of work-life balance. In the session, Stewart will share why he thinks that work-life balance is a myth and should be thrown out the window. He believes that seeing it as a balance means that we are constantly taking from one area and giving to another, which makes us feel rushed, stressed and guilty. When we’re spending time with friends and family we feel stressed because we’re not working. And, when we’re working too much and not making time for others we feel guilty.
I can’t wait for you to hear Stewart’s insights and the whole new approach to making sure you are successful at work while still spending time with those most important in your life.
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Please add a comment below sharing one or two main lessons that you can bring into your life or business from the Stewart Friedman teleseminar. This will serve two purposes:
- This will solidify your commitment to take action
- You will help others learn from your example
Example –> xxxx is what I learned and xxxx is how my life will be different as a result.
I’m looking forward to seeing and responding to all of your comments…
October 23rd, 2008 at 1:06 pm
What a great reminder that it is okay to experiment- even suggested!- with ways to better integrate different parts of our lives! This week I’m going to live like a scientist & experiment!
October 23rd, 2008 at 1:07 pm
I liked the concrete example of how to create activities in life that integrate the 4 aspects of one’s life (work, family, community, self) into a whole, rather than thing about these aspects as competing for time (so that one or more has to “lose”)
My action: To re-examine my major activities and see if I can re-frame an activity as something serving 3 or even all 4 of these needs.
October 23rd, 2008 at 1:11 pm
What really jumped out for me was the idea of asking people what they expect. That one is on my list. Great presentation and series. Thanks.
October 23rd, 2008 at 1:15 pm
I realized that I do value time with my wife and at the same time I find it hard to give it to her in favor of work success. I will more than likely get this Stewart’s book and see how I can integrate all four areas of my life into each four areas of my life.
I also realized that Total Leadership is just what I want to further my growth - personally, professionally, and socially.
Thanks Stewart!
October 24th, 2008 at 8:01 am
Megan, I’d love for you to leave a comment here letting us know how your experiment goes…
Vernel, let us know how asking people what they expect shift things for you…
October 24th, 2008 at 10:07 am
The main ideas that resonated with me was the one of different areas of my life taking the focus at different times and that taking time in one area can actually benefit the productivity of another. The years I spent as a single mom were necessarily focused on family and making a living. Starting my own business after the kids were grown was an attempt to find more balance and flexibility for myself. In the short run it seems the focus again became on making a living while I felt conflicted about taking that time for myself. So I’m reminded that if I do that it will flow back into energy for the business. Yeah!
October 24th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
I was really inspired by this interview!
It reminded me of how much I contribute to other people’s lives, and how I can contribute even more when I have that intention, instead of focusing on daily complaints and irritations (which I forget about 5 minutes later anyway).
Thank you Stewart Friedman for providing these insights.
October 27th, 2008 at 4:02 pm
Learned:
Shareholder conversations : What do we expect? How can I improve my performance?
Action:
Design for our shared future for maximum impact
October 27th, 2008 at 8:08 pm
I got some good suggestions and also validations that I am on the right track. I love the part where you tell people that their opinion matters to you. One year, I e-mailed a number of friends and colleagues and said, “You’re on my A list, and explained why. I think I will do something like that again, but take it to the next level by combining it with asking for their feedback. Also, Bill, I like the relaxed way these sessions are being presented. It reinforces the truth that life is easier when your inside matches your outside.